How to Not Get Tilted in Destiny 2

How to Not Get Tilted in Destiny 2


Tilt is the emotional state that comes when
what you’re doing just doesn’t work and is the result of having nothing to show for all
your hard work. It also happens when people get the better of you, or when you’re repeatedly finding yourself in situations that make you feel hopeless. Today’s video is about managing tilt and building
a framework to help you deal with the everyday rubbish of Destiny 2 in an efficient way. Hi, my name is Ascendant Nomad, and I’m YOUR
Crucible Doctor. There’s absolutely no shortage of things that
make us angry at Destiny 2. The game isn’t perfect, but we want it to be so badly because
we love it, and that causes a lot of friction. Sometimes it’s just simply the act of playing
the game that can send us into a negative feedback spiral. Tilt is a very natural thing to fall into
– let’s make that clear. This video is not going to shame you for feeling tilted. I get
it, trust me. When I’m tilted, I play worse. I play more within myself rather than the
swashbuckling golden gunner that I know I can be. I let myself get worked up over yet
another Mountaintop-Recluse user instead of thinking about where I need to be for my team. I know that it’s not helpful, and so do you.
Chances are you can probably relate to that. Of course tilt comes in many different forms
depending on the situation and environment you find yourself in. I got the idea for this video last year – a
person I knew wanted to manage their levels of tilt effectively in order to keep having
fun, and to keep themselves focused at the task at hand. That person a year ago was lost.
Inconsistent at best. Insecure. Talented, but too easily handled. Predictable. Obsessed
over statistics that meant little. He couldn’t move it on to the next level because he blamed
everyone but himself for things that went wrong. That person was not able to let go
and start becoming the best version of himself. And yet, despite everything, that person prevailed
and he became the person writing this video. Today, I’m going to share with you the process
I went through in order to get over my problems with tilt. Now I must make this abundantly clear: I’m
not a therapist nor will I pretend to be. I fully recognize that people are different and everyone has their own way of expressing themselves. So I don’t expect this video to
be a catch-all. I’m just a guy being a dude, this is what worked for me. For my process, I adopted a multiple-step
approach that systematically changed the way I reacted to events around me. There are four main stages: Awareness, Identification,
Rationalization and Acceptance. Stage 1 – Awareness. As the old adage goes, the first step in solving
a problem is admitting you have one. I want you to ask yourself – are you someone who
blames the game for things that are going wrong or do you admit and accept that it’s
you who has the problem? If you’re the former, then I’m sorry but you’re
going to have to at least entertain the idea that perhaps out of all the different things
that cause you to be tilted there’s only one real constant – you. You must take ownership
of your own emotions. Nobody governs them but yourself. Sure, the game is the primary
environment which provides the triggers, but you can’t blame the game if you continue to
play it. That said, if you’re someone who only blames
themselves, that’s not any closer to the mark either. Not all that aggravates you is your
cross to bear. Understand that there are things in your control, and things that are beyond
your control. Regardless of which category you fall into, make
a list and start identifying what triggers you. There might not be many, there might
be a whole lot. Remember – this list isn’t supposed to be just things that you think
the game could improve on, it’s the things that personally affect you. And it doesn’t
have to be strictly related to Destiny. In no particular order, here’s some examples
of stuff that has annoyed me in the past: – 3 or more teammates standing in the same
position looking down the same lane – offensive or antagonistic gamertags and
usernames – hate mail when I do well
– that ONE guy that always camps heavy – not liking certain maps
– not knowing how a guy keeps killing me over and over
– Twilight Oath is a weird sniper to get used to and I keep missing my shots
– crouch-spammers Everyone’s triggers are different. Make that
list. Once you’re done, it’s time for the next step. Stage 2 – Identification This is where we figure out the stuff that’s
in your control, and outside of your control. The things that are directly in your control
are the things you can directly influence. That means you can do something different
in-game or in real life. There are tangible and actionable things you can do to work on
how you process the outcomes of these events in the future. Then there’s stuff that’s just out of our
control, big picture stuff that you have no influence over. Skill based matchmaking is
probably THE hot-button topic at the time of writing this video. These are the things
that, unless you’re part of an internal team at Bungie, you can’t directly change. Start sorting your list of triggers into two
columns – internal and external. Internal being things you can control, and external
is the stuff you can’t. Here’s my list of stuff that I mentioned earlier, and I can
already see how most line up very easily. There may be some triggers that skirt that
line and have a bit of both in them, and that’s okay. Pick out the bits and pieces
that you can control and focus on that. Once you’ve gotten that list in your two columns,
it’s time for the biggest part yet. Stage 3 – Rationalization This is the part of the video where I’m going
to get ALL the dislikes. So here we go. Look at your external column. Take a good
hard look and make sure these are things that, when you really think about them, are completely
and utterly out of your control. Like there’s nothing you can do about their existence. Take a last look. Pause this video and think hard about it. Then come back. Now that you’re back, here’s what you’re going
to do. Take a deep, deep breath, close your eyes
and just let. them. go. If they’re not in your control, is it truly
worth getting upset over? Is it worth sacrificing your time, energy and enjoyment of a play
session to be tilted over something you can’t do anything about? Why are you tilted by this particular trigger?
Perhaps you’ve encountered something that you believe shouldn’t be as strong as it is,
like One Eyed Mask, Erentil or shotgun aping? Well sorry, that’s just the state of the game
right now. It doesn’t make logical sense to get tilted by a tool people wanna use to secure
the win. Barring One-Eyed Mask, there are hard counters to most things in the sandbox. Are you tilted because you keep finding yourself
matches with bad teammates? Well, that’s a really easy fix in non-comp modes – leave!
Find new teammates, or accept that shit happens. You can’t fix matchmaking, but you can check
your attitude towards it. This is the game, my friend. Is it ideal?
Hell no. Could you play other games that do it better? Absolutely! Go play them! If you
want to keep playing this game, you have to factor in all the various pitfalls that come
with it and just make your peace with it all. Let. It. All. Go. The noise in your head suddenly
seems a lot quieter once you do this. Now, assuming you’ve taken control of your
triggers and have let the external stuff go, how do you focus on the internal ones and
make it a productive exercise? Let’s go back to my list. I’ll take a common
one: not liking certain maps. This is a particularly long-form version of tilt because it’s not
based on a snap-decision or any one particular action. It’s a set of lived experiences which
have been primarily negative up until this point, so that when you’re faced with going
through it again immediately you brain goes: “ugh this map? F*** Wormhaven man.” It’s the same feeling you get as a child when your mum asks you to do chores, or as an adult when you’re asked to be nice to people without reason So immediately, whilst doing the Crucible
things you’ve put yourself in an agitated state that’s likely to amplify all other sources
of irritation that occur throughout a match. That in turn makes you tilted, and leaves
you with yet another negative lived experience to add to the already substantial pile. Ask yourself – how much of it is genuinely
down to you thinking it’s a bad map, over simply not knowing the map fully? I’d argue
it’s the latter for the vast majority of people if they were being truly honest with themselves. So start learning it. Pay attention. Take
your own frustration out of the equation by having this goal in mind. If you get angry,
you learn less and miss out details. Literally everything could be a discovery if your map
knowledge isn’t up to par, not to mention the process of discovery itself is something
that’s intrinsically powerful, meaningful and positive. It feels good to learn stuff. Look I could spend all day here breaking down
every trigger and every course of action you can follow, but generally if you have an internal
tilt trigger it’s because you haven’t explored options in dealing with it fully yet, either
as a means to get around it or to educate yourself on a certain thing so you’re less
likely to be triggered by it again. You can break it down and you can dissect what’s happening
without too much effort. Trust your instincts, they are probably right. If you want further guidance, you can always
hit me up on Twitter where my DMs are always open, or on our Discord server The Tribe,
where we’re dedicated to self-improvement and helping people get better at decoding
their weaknesses. I’ll leave a link to both below that like button. Stage 4 – Acceptance This journey to become less tilted will not
be straightforward. As you progress, there will be setbacks. As you let go of one thing,
something new will take its place. Fighting the urge to tilt can be an exhausting battle
because what you’re doing is changing an important part of yourself. A change that, in my opinion,
is for the better. Which is why the last stage, Acceptance, is
so important. This is going to take time. Allow yourself to change over time, rather
than expecting an immediate fix. Nothing that comes easy is worth having. Now of course, everything I’ve said here has
been all about preventing tilt. And try as you might, it’s not going to stop you from
getting angry in the heat of the moment. Even I have my days where I’m decidedly human in
the way I respond to stuff. There’s ways to deal with that. Firstly, nobody gets to a point where they’re
punching their monitors immediately, after one bad game or one sequence of events. In the off chance you are an avid Summit1G cosplayer, please stop this video right now and go seek
professional help. That’s not normal. But for the vast majority of us, it’s a slow burn
and a build-up over time. The bullshit adds up to a point where it can’t anymore and then
it starts affecting us physically. The key is to catch yourself well before the
tipping point is in sight. If you’re starting to feel yourself get annoyed you need to stop
and take a second. Frustration builds when you die, and then waiting to respawn feels
like an eternity until you can let loose the inner hound of war again. Pull yourself out
of the game, notice the emotion and let it die down. Simply noticing that you’re getting
tilted, without judgment, can often stop it dead in its tracks. Then, take a couple of
a seconds, take a few deep breaths, relax your mind and body. Now you can get back to
it. In between games, physically get up and walk
around until you’ve fully loaded into the next game. Do some stretches or find a breathing
exercise that works well for you. Try different things that help you become fully relaxed
and mentally refreshed for the next game so that tilt has a harder time of building up. And if you can’t manage that? Quit the game
and stop playing for now. Very simple. That said, you can’t catch every irritation
without an extreme level of self awareness. Things will happen, moments will slip through
and some mountain dew will be spilled. The goal is to be far more calm than annoyed,
always. When you’re calm, your mind is open to new ideas, new details, new strategies
that you’d miss when you’re otherwise tilted. Focus on doing it right. Focus on being honest
with yourself. Have your friends hold you accountable. Do this not because you have
to, but because you want to. Take pride in the journey because at the end you’ll be proud
to be ashamed of the person you used to be. You don’t need to strip yourself of passion
to become un-titled. You just have to save it for the moments that matter. Enjoy yourself,
and always remember the reasons you play this game to begin with – because it’s just fun. It’s not perfect, and it never will be. And that’s okay. Nothing ever is. Let go, keep calm and carry on. It’s easier
than you think. Thank you so much for watching. If you liked
this video, you know what to do. My name is Ascendant Nomad, and I’m YOUR Crucible Doctor. See you in the next one. Cheers.

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