Understanding Anger and the Ego ~ Spiritual Teachings with Sloane Rhodes

Understanding Anger and the Ego ~ Spiritual Teachings with Sloane Rhodes


hi everyone it’s Sloane Rhodes here I
wanted to talk to everyone today about anger. anger right, it’s one of the seemingly most justifiable emotions
right they did something to me so I got angry I had to stand up for myself and
the only way to make them listen was to get angry we have all of these
justifications for why we need to respond or react out of anger and
sometimes it’s involuntary but we just fight after the fact right well yeah but
they did this to me so you know my anger was was justifiable but the problem that
we experienced with anger is that it’s it’s toxic to our system it doesn’t feel
good and it’s filled with fear right beneath all anger is fear fear from the
inner child that he or she is somehow not safe in the moment either physically
or not safe emotionally or whatever or that the inner child feels a threat to
their very sense of their loved ability are they still loved are they still
worthy of love so anger comes up very quickly it’s one of the fastest ways
that our ego can keep us in a familiar pattern of fear and anxiety and we all
experience anger whether you’re just driving your car everyone on the road you know as an idiot or whether it’s in
our personal relationships or you know our professional relationships or
whatever so let’s talk a little bit more about this so anger let me back it up
when we just so many layers to this let’s go let’s go it this way so say you
are interacting with an individual who’s deeply unconscious and you’ve been doing
your work and you’re trying your best to bring all of your issues up into
conscious awareness and you’ve come across an individual very often as other
people who make us so angry and that person is deeply unconscious and either
they wear their anger outwardly or they have internalized anger that they have
no address so deep within their unconscious awareness
deep within their unconscious a lacking awareness and either way the involuntary
reaction toward them from us can be immediate and meet anger with anger it’s
amazing how quickly we get drawn in to that unconscious ego look fear
a threat or that we aren’t going to be loved no more they of love right so it’s
a powerful sort of vortex and it takes a great deal of presence and understanding
and compassion of self to meet anger whether it be deeply unconscious or
extroverted anger with a degree of equanimity compassion or less fear even
than less anger so this is what occurs when you are talking with someone who is
deeply unconscious and they have a lot of anger within them you may find that
you become the aggressor or you just find yourself really angry with them for
reasons that don’t seem to match the situation and so once you can kind of
recognize that what you are experiencing is your own unconscious issues around
fear love ability surfacing in the form of anger and being reflected back to you
through their unconscious anger so they are reflecting to you your own
unconscious feelings of anger so you may not
understand why I get so mad I was so angry with that person right seemingly
out of out of context based on the context of what was occurring this could
help you begin to address these issues more easily because it’s never them
causing it for you it’s you feeling that matching energy that you already hold
within you and so that’s for a deeply unconscious anger and it helps to
understand how it comes up so quickly right and then when you’re talking with
someone who has a great deal of extroverted anger what you’re really
dealing with is a tremendous amount of fear on their part they are so angry
because they are trying to protect the inner child sense of self trying to
protect something the inner child feels it needs in order to be either protected
loved safe whatever so it’s very you can feel very rabid like how this person so
angry and right away you’re drawn into anger too and then suddenly you’re like
two dogs in her if I know her a bone right but you don’t even know what the
bone is all you know is that you feel this tremendous sense of icky anger and
I need to protect yourself or to fight back so anger is extremely slippery to
deal with because it is rooted in the unconscious
it is rooted in the unexamined needs of the inner child to feel safe to feel
protected to feel loved so the inner child or how Rises up you know in a very
primal way to get what he or she thinks it needs to find that feeling of love or
to protect that feeling of of self-love or to self protection
right now all of this may not be available for you to be conscious of and
work with in the moment but afterwards when the adrenalin dissipates and you
begin to feel more calm and possibly more peaceful you can begin to examine
it so that when it occurs again and it will you can meet it with a greater
sense of awareness whether it is someone’s unconscious anger being
reflected back to you and you feel it and it comes out right match it I’m
gonna dominate I’m gonna show them you’re so angry with
them I mean it’s crazy how quickly it can occur and so whether it’s someone’s
unconscious anger that you are matching conscious you know again unconsciously
but in a more aggressive way or you are matching a more extroverted type of
anger with your own extraversion and anger now sometimes when we are with
someone who’s extremely angry can an extra extroverted way we can also
internalize that you know and it can become passive-aggressive
either way the anger still needs to be addressed you know it still needs to be
brought into the light of consciousness so that you can work with that and
transmute it into something that feels more loving more available for
exploration so anger is something I’ve been thinking a lot about over the past
month actually and something occurred this week where I felt a tremendous
amount of anger at someone and I realized oh they’re just reflecting back
to me my own anger you know my own need of the inner child to be seen to be to
be heard to be loved to be protected and so I had to I have to do my own work you
know remind myself remind my inner child that she is safe and she is loved by me
always and if you’ve watched my other videos I talked a lot about that working
with the inner child and the inner child star being synonymous with the ego so
it’s anger is a powerful tool to help us become more aware of our vulnerability
of our humanity and of our connection to everyone so I hope that you find that
helpful I wish everyone much love as always and
if you would like a private appointment with me you can email me and or go to my
website sloane rhodes dot com in the meantime I wish you much love and just remind you
that all of my videos are available in audio format on iTunes SoundCloud and
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